My phone rang yesterday and I looked down to see Liz's name on the caller id. But I didn't freak out - she had warned me via email that she might be calling. This is how sensitive she is: she knew that without warning the first thing I would think was MATCH!!!! and didn't want to get my hopes up.
It was good to touch base with her using real voices and not the internet, for a change. I was able to ask questions and get a good picture of where we are and what's coming up.
I asked her again about profile feedback, and she assured me that we don't need to change our profile, and that it's normal to wonder when you haven't been picked.
Turns out, we come across as a little, well, a little alternative. She seemed reluctant to tell me this, because Liz loves our profile. In fact, most of the people who work for the various agencies who have it love our profile.
"But you have to understand," Liz said "Texas has a different culture."
I get it. And it's okay. We don't have a big house, a fancy car, a large yard just begging for children to play in it. We have a cozy little condo two miles from downtown and a playground full of neighborhood kids across the street. We don't have a stay-at-home mom, just waiting for someone to stay at home for. We've got two people who both want to be at home with our kids part of the time and also working part of the time. Who plan to make that happen for ourselves. We are a heterosexual Christian couple, something quite popular from what I understand, but we don't look a lot like other "Christian" couples. I am studying to be a priest, and there are plenty of Christians in Texas(and other places) who don't think women should do such things. There are tattoos and drumsets in our profile.
I'm not discouraged by this, because I want our child's first mom to be someone who sees us - as we really are - and thinks our lifestyle is a good place for a baby to live and grow. We knew going into it that being "alternative" could work for us or against us. Time wise it sure feels like it's working against us. But in the long run I firmly believe it'll be a good thing. She'll find us.