The main thing I have learned in the past 24 hours or so is that the fact that we are matched is just about the only thing we can know for sure for a while. Here is what we know:
- This baby's mother is in Georgia and baby will be born in Atlanta
- There are two things to know about adoption laws in Georgia. First, the earliest the mother may sign relinquishment papers is 48 hours after the baby is born. Second, there is a 10 day revocation period afterward in which she may change her mind. So, twelve days after the birth, ten days after papers are signed by the first mother the baby will be legally free.
- We can take custody of the baby before this ten days is up, however if we do so it will be under legal risk.
So: we have some decisions to make. But we don't have to make any of them right now. The first steps are to be available to V, our social worker in Georgia who is working with Y, the baby's mother. Y has a big week ahead and not a lot of support aside from V, so first and foremost it is important that her needs are met as best possible and this baby is born healthy.
Right now, Y doesn't think she wants to meet us in person. However, we may talk to her on the phone tomorrow and really at this point all bets are off. It is up to her, of course.
Our big decision, which we will probably make after the baby is born, is when to go to Georgia, should Y decide to stick to the adoption plan. There is a risk, of course, in traveling before the ten days is up. But I have a hard time seeing myself waiting until the baby is almost two weeks old. Hopefully V will have a good enough read on the situation to see how the wind is blowing, so to speak.
One thing I'm getting mixed messages about is when we can actually start the Interstate paperwork that will allow us to leave Georgia and travel back to Washington state. Liz says we can do that as soon as relinquishment is signed. V seems to think that there is no way we can travel before the ten days is up. Right now I'm leaning towards traveling and taking custody 4-5 days after baby arrives and starting the paperwork so that we can come back home as soon as the ten day revocation period is up.
That's the update! Y will have another doctor appointment Monday, and we might get a better idea of who is in there then. Of course, we'll know soon enough regardless.
Thanks to everyone for your outpouring of love and support for us! We are so blessed, and I feel just absolutely held by your care right now. ♥