Friday, October 30, 2009

Modern Family - not quite Adoption Free Friday

It's time for a comedy break.

I'm fascinated by the different ways in which adoption is portrayed on television - from shallow and sappy to complex and sappy to difficult and....sappy. In my opinion most of the ways in which adoption is dramatized is very. dramatic. and. serious. Which is fine, adoption can be dramatic and serious. Just read the past several posts on this blog. But it's not always that way! I would not be on this path if I thought that seriousness and drama were the only highlights of my future as an adoptive parent.

But, when adoption is featured in a comedic way it's just not done well. Bruno comes to mind.

Lately, though, I've been loving the adoptive family of Mitchell, Cameron, and Lily on ABC's Modern Family. While not completely realistic (I haven't researched this at all, but I don't think that gay couples are accepted into our agency's Vietnam adoption program and it's not because WACAP has an issue with them, I think it's a Vietnam government thing, but why nitpick), it's nice to see a "normal" adoptive family on t.v. without it being a big dramatic deal. The dads are already making many of the well intentioned white person mistakes as they try to do their best for little Lily - when they take her to their Asian pediatrician Cam launches into a speech about how they are planning to connect her to her heritage only to have the doc dryly inform him "I'm from Denver." But what I'm really loving is their normal first-time parent-ness. The clip below, from this week's episode, had me howling. (clip doesn't work if you're outside the US, my apologies!)



It was a good reminder to me that no matter how "alternative" your family is - and like it or not all families built through adoption are choosing to step into the categories "alternative" and "controversial" to some degree - a good 90% of parenting is pretty much the normal stuff of life. And, as Lily's doctor from Denver reminded Mitch and Cam "Babies are built to survive new parents."

Also, I have a sneaking suspicion that if this happened to us Andrew would be the one charging the car door with a trash can, and the thought of that makes me giggle. ♥

8 comments:

  1. I can't watch the clip as I'm in Canada and the video won't stream to me, and I am too lazy to look it up on one of our networks. But was the baby locked in the car but chance? If so I locked my son inthe car last week. (And I blogged about it too)

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  2. oh man, I didn't realize hulu wasn't viewable in Canada! Yes, after a touching conversation about how they are learning to be good parents they lock the baby in the car. It's hilarious. Off to read your blog now!

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  3. I LOVE this show! And that couple make the show in my opinion! Hilarious!

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  4. That clip is hilarious! I don't watch the show, but I think I might be missing out.

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  5. I actually saw that episode - pretty funny. I'm pretty sure I'm going to go out one day and forget the kid.

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  6. We are now regular watchers of this show because of you. This episode was highlarious! I busted a gut from the Denver line.

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  7. I love the show! Funny without being negative. If you are a Modern Family with an alternate lifesyle and live in Colorado, you will need a Colorado licensed agency to work with. You will find a welcoming place to ask questions and work toward adoption -- even plan a cooperative across state lines adoption with WACAP who is a very successful and professional agency. Call Adoption Homestudy Agency of Colorado 720.214.0606.

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  8. Actually, no one from the US, gay or straight, is allowed to adopt from Vietnam. There were too many cases of child trafficking so the US put a ban on adoptions from Vietnam. France and Canada still adopt babies from Vietnam, though. Something that has always bothered me about the show, though I suppose I'm being nit-picky. Television is television...

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